So it’s back to work after a full 7 days in sunny Florida. Florida was wonderful; in the 80s with a nice breeze, palm trees, nice, southern hospitality, and all the grits anyone could eat. And the parks were so much fun! The Wizarding World of Harry Potter was brilliant and William, who has an aversion to the books, thought it was all pretty cool. Disney World is magical and we were fortunate enough to be at Epcot during their international food and wine festival, which meant that when the grandparents got tired of William and me running from ride to ride they could find a bench and kick back with a margarita.
The most important part of the whole week for me, though, was that Tim, William, and I got to have a rip-roaring good time together as a family. That William got to cuddle up with his grandma and grandpa (my mom and dad) while waiting in lines or eating dinner or decompressing from another day at the theme parks. That we as a family got to create memories and become closer and spend time together. That’s where the real magic happened.
After your relationship with God, your relationship with your family is the most important thing in your life, yet we let almost everything get in the way of nurturing that relationship. We have a tendency to work too much, and then when we get home, we catch up on chores or tune out the world with the television or computer. We choose time spent with our friends over time spent with our kids. We focus on ourselves to the detriment of the ones we love. Our relationships with our parents were dysfunctional or are strained so we build walls around us that keep our spouses and children (or closest friends if we are single) out. And all of this drives us further away from what God wants for us during our earthly lives.
Be there for your spouse and children. Set a schedule if you need to where they have your undivided attention. Prioritize school plays and date nights. Express warmth, affirmation, and love. Don’t hesitate to kiss your spouse or hold their hand, especially in front of your children. Take time to play together, even if it’s a quick game of Uno or a walk around the block. Ruthlessly eliminate unnecessary stressors. Apologize when you are wrong, talk about your day, plan for the future. Forgive. Pray and read scripture together. Model moral, christian living. If you are experiencing problems in your family life male an appointment to speak to one of our pastors or pursue family counseling. Make family your greatest priority.